Re: proportion of time spent with kids, that graph probably just applies to western cultures. I've grown up in the US, and that graph pretty much defines my relationship with my parents, so sometimes I wonder if I'm doomed to repeat it as a parent, or if there's a way somehow to get my kids to be non-western and want to hang out with me after becoming an adult, too. Internationally, teenagers are much more mature than US teenagers, and I'm not sure how to convey that to them. I feel like the harder I push/pull, they more they'll instinctively push away. Anyway, there's only so much I can control, and what happens will happen. My kids are only 1.5 and 3 so far, so trying to enjoy the journey...
One thought I've had lately is that maybe I should define parent-raising success not by whether they like me, but by passing on a will to survive. I'm blessed to have become quite wealthy, and I'm always grateful for my investing success and now-easy life. Lots of rich kids seem to not develop a will to survive like non-wealthy kids have, so I'm not sure how to pass on that will to my kids who are rich thx to me, either...
It's a good question. I think that a big factor even if you have a great relationship is whether they live in the same city or not. In the US, people tend to move around a lot more than in some other countries, so I suspect that's a factor.
Another excellent issue. I’m sure you have already seen My octopus teacher. They are by far the coolest version of divergent evolution of intelligence in the animal kingdom. But I guess we would have to include the human brain in that category too.
Re: proportion of time spent with kids, that graph probably just applies to western cultures. I've grown up in the US, and that graph pretty much defines my relationship with my parents, so sometimes I wonder if I'm doomed to repeat it as a parent, or if there's a way somehow to get my kids to be non-western and want to hang out with me after becoming an adult, too. Internationally, teenagers are much more mature than US teenagers, and I'm not sure how to convey that to them. I feel like the harder I push/pull, they more they'll instinctively push away. Anyway, there's only so much I can control, and what happens will happen. My kids are only 1.5 and 3 so far, so trying to enjoy the journey...
One thought I've had lately is that maybe I should define parent-raising success not by whether they like me, but by passing on a will to survive. I'm blessed to have become quite wealthy, and I'm always grateful for my investing success and now-easy life. Lots of rich kids seem to not develop a will to survive like non-wealthy kids have, so I'm not sure how to pass on that will to my kids who are rich thx to me, either...
It's a good question. I think that a big factor even if you have a great relationship is whether they live in the same city or not. In the US, people tend to move around a lot more than in some other countries, so I suspect that's a factor.
Another excellent issue. I’m sure you have already seen My octopus teacher. They are by far the coolest version of divergent evolution of intelligence in the animal kingdom. But I guess we would have to include the human brain in that category too.
The species I need to learn more about is cuttlefish. I keep hearing great things about them but I know relatively little!